The Real Housewives of Atl...

Ok, so everyone knows I am a reality tv junkie, and like most junkies I like to share my addiction. Now there are very different reasons for why I like reality tv, and I use the term loosely because its not my reality and I AM REALLY NOT SURE who's reality it might be but nonetheless, its entertaining.

Now take the Season 2 premier of The Real Housewives of Atlanta...

Again this is not my reality but it was one of those things that you should turn off but really can't pull yourself to do so. (a la Bobby and Whitney in Being Bobby Brown)

So it starts off with a recap of last season and the drama and fights that ensued. Which brings you back to present day and the "new" wives and lives.

NeNe: I like her but she rubs me the wrong way in the fact that I think she likes to start and keep drama going all while trying to play "innocent" Not a good look for you NeNe...and for all that said she lost her house, I am not sure if its true but she has moved into another one in THE SAME NEIGHBORHOOD as Lisa, and who says reality tv won't upgrade you!

Lisa: Now I will forever love this couple. They seem like the epitome of what marriage is about. And they are working to have more children, do you! There is no room fro judgement from me. Now I do know they both are a lil hood...go figure. And I love how they pulled up to a celebrity birthday bash dressed to the NINEs in a Nissan Pathfinder...Keep It Real Family Hartwell

Sheree: She is beautiful and although her attitude in the first season made her ugly, you can tell that she has went through a humbling experience that she finally talks about in this season 2 premier. But boy did the Cleveland Hood Bitch come out of her during a planning event for her 'Independence/Divorced Granted" Party...

In her defense, I do believe that she was right to want to be included and allowed to ask the details of her shin-dig...

Kim: Still plastic, Still fake, Still a whore AND SHE WILL NOT TRY TO BE SLICK AND SAY THE BLACK GIRL AT THE HAIR SHCOOL WILL BE WORKING FOR HER ONE DAY....disgusted!

Drama...Part II

So here I thought we were past the drama after the "all night" discussion, WRONG!

So I am laying in bed and I get a text saying "...I was sleep but have been up showered dressed and now at the bar wit my boy..." Fine whatevs, except for the fact that I sent you a text 4 hours ago and I am just getting a response. Do you! Then comes the next text "...So I will talk to you tomorrow, have a good night..." to which I reply "..oh ok, you do the same" This banter went back and forth for a while until I received a text that thru me completely for a loop...

"...You think you are innocent, but your not..." Now anybody that knows me knows that as a "white woman" I confuse easily so I replied, "...what are you talking about because I am completely confused..." And they said "...well seeing as how you are delayed on your responses you must have somebody there with you..." THAT DID IT!

Right then I made up my mind that this wasn't a situation that I am going to continue to deal with. "7 whole days and I'm just about thru, can't take it, won't take it, No, I had about enough of you...


So needless to say something, either liquor or their friends, got them all Gassed up and they went into this whirlwind of psychosis and antics that I refuse to be bothered with...

It was fun while it lasted, now its time to move on to a GROWN UP relationship. I think that was just what I needed to make the next decision in my life. A REASON, A SEASON, OR A LIFETIME...guessed we figured out which that was.

~feenix

Someone Just Made My Day...

Looks like I have an admirer...


Big ole kool aid smile (the red kind)

Thanks a mil...Much appreciated!

~feenix
p.s. it was sent to my job, how special is that????!

Drama...

So at what point should you turn and run from a situation when DRAMA presents itself...

Let me give you some insight. So from a previous post you should know that I had a pretty awesome weekend recently. Well that weekend extended into the rest of the week. LOL I know right, how the hell did that happen? It will be 7 whole days (ala Toni Braxton) tomorrow. In the course of that 7 day period there have been 2 small, yet big issues, that arose where I have to question if it is worth my time, emotions, or effort to remain a 100% involved in this situation.

The sad part is that I am even having this conversation with myself, let alone anyone with internet access. Go Figure!


~feenix

Annoyed and Frustrated...A Rant

I am annoyed that it took me over an hour to go across the bridge and come back from getting lunch

I am annoyed that people drive like they are the only fuckin' ones on the road

I am annoyed that it takes them a whole hour to turn the fuckin' corner

I am annoyed that men don't act like men anymore

I am annoyed that some single mothers made their male sons act and drive like bitches

I am annoyed that the charger/magnum is the NEW mercedes, FOR BLACK PEOPLE

I am annoyed that black folks always gotta be loud and tellin' they business in a public setting

I am annoyed that they think I want to hear that

I am annoyed that black folks don't have any manners

I am annoyed that as a black mother you are okay with your son being a womanizer

I am annoyed that this bitch almost hit my car trying to get into my lane like her car isn't equipped with mirrors

I am annoyed that she was waving her hand in the rear view mirror as if to apologize

I am annoyed that if she would have hit me, I am not really sure if I would have been able to handle it without violence

I am annoyed that the DOT put up these computer screens that say "Aggressive Driving shatters lives" when they should have included so does DUMB ASS DRIVERS



I am frustrated with the traffic in this area

I am frustrated that the cops aint worth shit

I am frustrated that I have to continue to control my temper living amongst hells angels

I am frustrated that there are more of them than there are me

I am frustrated that we've been given equal rights for substantially unequal efforts

I am just frustrated....


~feenix

Niggas, Gnats, and Flies, I do Despise...

The more I hate Niggas, the more I like Flies!

So last night, after a very long weekend, I drop my sis off and call my shortie to see if they want to roll thru right...

So I pick them up and I get home, mind you I am exhausted ready to go in the house, shower, and bun up. I pull into my garage and someone is in my spot. Instantly, I went from 0 to 60... because I just don't get why you would park in someone else's spot.

So fast forward, after I say a few expletives, I call non-emergency and have them dispatch a cruiser so that I can have a ticket issued. The ticket is because I can't have it towed without a ticket. (sidebar: I have been through this before, so I know the procedure) And when I noticed it was the "klan" I knew this wasn't going to go good. The "klan" was like we can't issue tickets on private property and yadda yadda yadda not telling me what I want to hear. I was givin' it to him...but I digress.

So I accepted the fact that I may have to park "kandy" on the street because I didn't have time to wait and it was already late. So as I was walking up the steps I seen that muthafukka that I don't like and his boy walking down the hall, I said to myself, bet you its his ass in my spot. So in true feenix fashion I turned and walked behind they ass to see. Sure nuff....

So I said to him, "now you know that's my spot, so why have your boy park there" He lookin' at me all dumb and ain't saying shit..So I'm like are you a mute...so I turn to his boy and was like I was about to have your shit towed...

They got in and pulled out...then must have thought about it and stopped. Dude came back and was like you ain't have to talk to me like that. I ain't know dude was in your spot, I was like how did he get in the garage and in the building and just happen to park in my spot and he your company but you ain't know he was there? Then I turned to his gump as friend and was like I don't come to your house and park in yo spot so why would you do that shit here...Why would you do some shit like that... Then my shorty was like calm down, he said he ain't know...in an attempt to diffuse the situation...Wasn't going for it... I think it was more so cuz I ain't like his ass to begin with...


Keep in mind, it was not about the space but more so the principle...

~feenix

July 24-July 27...The Weekend!

Okay every now and then you have the BOMB weekend. It's either when your birthday falls on a Friday, or Memorial Day, or 4th of July, or Labor Day or anytime you get that 4-5 day stretch... Well none of this applies to the weekend I just had...LOL

Started Friday...After an unbelievably wasteful Friday morning and afternoon I met up with this shortie that I had been trying to get at for a while. For whatever reason things just clicked and we agreed to chill out. Friday turned into Monday morning quickly... I guess that's what they mean by TIME FLIES WHEN YOUR HAVING FUN!

You ever had that situation where you just click instantly and you vibe and chill and laugh and just forget about anything that goes on? Well that is the kind of weekend that I had. Yessssir

But it wasn't all about just laying up and gettin' it in (We did that too!!!!! OMG did we do that, but I digress) I got a chance to showcase my culinary skills. AND I DON'T DO THAT FOR EVERYBODY. My family and my friends are about the only ones that get my good cookin' unless I am trying to show someone up at a work function (punch bowl cake anyone?)

But most importantly I got a chance to spend time with my family and the Lord himself.

My Family: I try to go visit my parents after church because Sunday is usually family time. (And the fact that my parents live about 5 mins from the church I attend, how rude would it be if I didn't go visit) So I text'd my mother from the 24th pew and asked her what she was doing...She replies about to go pick up your sisters and hang out at the mall...Whoa! where was my invite? So at the same time I am talking to my sisters via text and they tellin' me about the plans they got wit Ma...So 'Snow White' is confused as to how she is the fairest of them all and NO-ONE included her...So fast forward, now that my seat on the excursion has been arranged we get it poppin'. I love spending time with my family cuz we all crazy as hell and we should have 12 pack abs by now the way we be cracking up. And my nieces are getting so Big...Shout out to Ms. Gucci her shoe game is vicious (thanks to her uncle; will post pics of the footwear we purchased!) But you gotta love them yessir!
And my shoe game:

The Lord: So they sang 2 of my favorite Jesus compositions yesterday and that let me know I was where I needed to be. I get my message through music which is why I attend on the 2nd and 4th cuz that's when the the "chorale" blows... Yes I know Jesus and Emanuel...what more can you ask for, AMEN!

~feenix

Embarrarssed...

Now readers, I don't know if you are anything like me but I HATE to be embarassed. With that being said, I try to limit the opportunities for my mental psyche to register embarrassment. The subject of embarrassment is important because it stems from quite a funny situation, or at least I think it is funny...

Now I know I said that I was going to retire my 'Funny Fitness Expose': All the Funny Things at the Gym, but I had to come out of retirement just one time... (sidebar: My Jane Fonda is killin' em)

So being the 'white woman' that I am, I am all about spin class. If you are unfamiliar, its a group exercise class that involves the stationary riding of a bike that is supposed to be reflective of outdoor riding (hill climbing, sprinting, etc). And because it is soooooo popular among my fellow whites, you must sign up for the class no more than an hour prior to the beginning of the class (sidebar: the staff at the gym guard this list like its Queen Eliz)...

So on more that one occasion, people come into the spin class and get on bikes and start riding to warm up before class. Now I am watching as the bikes get less and less available as it gets closer to the start time. So now its "6:30" and in walks the instructor prepared to start class...but hold up somebody doesn't have a bike. Here is where the ENTERTAINMENT comes in...

The instructor says "is there anyone in here that is on a bike and didn't sign the list?..." Of course no one says anything and EVERYONE looks around. So the instructor asks again "is there anyone that is on a bike that didn't sign the list cuz I am about to go pull the list and call names..." Still no one says anything. "Attendance" is called and the person NOT on the list is looking all dumb and confused and EMBARRASSED because I, along with others, are cracking up at the jackass who wasted time and could have avoided being embarrassed BECAUSE YOU KNOW DAMN WELL YOU DIDN'T SIGN UP FOR SPIN CLASS...WTf?


~feenix

Caught Looking...

Ok so when you are faced with someone who has odd characteristics, por ejemplo a lazy/crooked/wandering eye, how should you behave?

I ask because there is a maintenance man in my building and he has the above mentioned characteristic and yesterday I approached him about some cleaning solution and sub-consciously I am sure I was focused on this eye. (sidebar: I wonder if they notice that you are looking at that eye versus anything else) I digress...

As I walked away I was thinking to myself...

Was my stare obvious?

Did I hide it at all?

Was I really staring at it?

I feel so embarassed?

How rude of me...

But I can't help it...

Oh well!

~feenix

Which is more important Culture or Protection...?

http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-na-sexassault24-2009jul24,0,1400625.story

So now that you have read the story...Can you answer the question of which is more important Culture or Protection.

This is truly disturbing because your 8 year old daughter was physically harmed and the only thing you care about is how this will make your family name appear to outsiders. Now don't get me wrong, I am the first person to respect other cultures because I think its fascinating and it is primarily what makes people different aside from the obvious...But isn't there an exception to some rules. Chewing gum was the object of her desire which tells of the mental capacity of the little girl..She is a refugee so who knows how much english she speaks...

It is just hurtful that pride, in this case, has overridded compassion, parenting, love, support, safety etc...

But there is no room for judgement from me...just confusion!


~feenix

Morning Mood...

Can you relate...?

~feenix

I just copied these from a blog that I follow...

Stupidity

ONE
Recently, when I went to McDonald's I saw on the menu that you could have an order of 6, 9 or 12 Chicken McNuggets. I asked for a half dozen nuggets. "We don't have half dozen nuggets," said the teenager at the counter. "You don't?" I replied. "We only have six, nine, or twelve," was the reply. "So I can't order a half dozen nuggets, but I can order six?" "That's right." So I shook my head and ordered six Nuggets.

TWO
I was checking out at the local Wal-Mart with just a few items and the lady behind me put her things on the belt close to mine. I picked up one of those "dividers" that they keep by the cash register and placed it between our things so they wouldn't get mixed. After the girl had scanned all of my
items, she picked up the "divider", looking it all over for the bar code so she could scan it. Not finding the bar code she said to me, "Do you know how much this is?" I said to her "I've changed my mind, I don't think I'll buy that today." She said "OK," and I paid her for the things and left. She had no clue to what had just happened.

THREE
A lady at work was seen putting a credit card into her floppy drive and pulling it out very quickly. When I inquired as to what she was doing, she said she was shopping on the Internet and they kept asking for a credit card number, so she was using the ATM "thingy."

FOUR
I recently saw a distraught young lady weeping beside her car. "Do you need some help?" I asked. She replied, "I knew I should have replaced the battery to this remote door unlocker. Now I can't get into my car. Do you think they (pointing to a distant convenience store) would have a battery to fit this?"
"Hmmm, I dunno. Do you have an alarm, too?" I asked. "No, just this remote thingy," she answered, handing it and the car keys to me. As I took the key and manually unlocked the door, I replied, "Why don't you drive over there and check about the batteries. It's a long walk."

FIVE
Several years ago, we had an Intern who was none too swift. One day she was typing and turned to a secretary and said, "I'm almost out of typing paper.
What do I do?" "Just use copier machine paper," the secretary told her. With that, the intern took her last remaining blank piece of paper, put it on the photocopier and proceeded to make five "blank" copies.

SIX
I was in a car dealership a while ago, when a large motor home was towed into the garage. The front of the vehicle was in dire need of repair and the whole thing generally looked like an extra in "Twister." I asked the manager what had happened. He told me that the driver had set the "cruise control" and then went in the back to make a sandwich.

SEVEN
My neighbor works in the operations department in the central office of a large bank. Employees in the field call him when they have problems with their computers. One night he got a call from a woman in one of the branch banks who had this question: "I've got smoke coming from the back of my terminal. Do you guys have a fire downtown?"

EIGHT
Police in Radnor, Pa., interrogated a suspect by placing a metal colander on his head and connecting it with wires to a photocopy machine. The message "He's lying" was placed in the copier, and police pressed the copy button each time they thought the suspect wasn't telling the truth. Believing the
"lie detector" was working, the suspect confessed.

NINE
A mother calls 911 very worried asking the dispatcher if she needs to take her kid to the emergency room, the kid was eating ants. The dispatcher tells her to give the kid some Benadryl and should be fine, the mother says, I just gave him some ant killer..... Dispatcher: Rush him to emergency!

"Life is tough. It's tougher if you're stupid."

I just had to share these. I'm having a bad day and these just brightened up my day.

Confirmation...

In the same breath that I used to question my standpoint in life right now, I was subtly reminded of the things that are going in a good direction.

No my financial success is not immediate...As with other people and as I would hope. But there are reasons yes?

No I am not Ballin' like some...Although that would be nice.

Yes I am just a mere employee, but there is a plan for that too!

People are destined and born to do things with the talent they are given. My talents happen to be gift of gab, business savvy, the ability to ask the right question, and structure among MANY other things. So from inception, I knew that being a mere employee would never work for me.

So the opportunity presented itself...

I was teaching and Entrepreneurship program a couple summers back and I met this really great intelligent guy...many conversations and brainstorming nights later we created something great...

CharacterYou, LLC. - It's Official

APHJ - CEO
RVBD - PRES

I was NEVER meant to be a mere employee!

~feenix

Sad...

So every so often these bouts of sadness and depression creep in...

What has caused this today you ask? Well just the realization that I do not make enough money. So the constant question you ask is how can this be handled or better yet changed?

Am I in the wrong environment....Can't be because this is supposed to be the BEST place for work..Oh that is if you are in the GOVERNMENT which is hard as Hades to enter....

Is it because I am not educated...Can't be because I am working hard to pursue another Master's Degree program not to mention my experience in the collegiate education arena.

Is it because I have no ambition...Can't be because I thrive on success.

Is it because I am not qualified...Can't be see the above reasons.


So what can it be...?

Happy in other things, Sad in this one!

~feenix

Quote of the day...

"Sometimes I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can anyone deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It's beyond me!"

~ Zora Neal Hurston

August...

So as we all know, July is pretty much over. Not sure what changes you can possibly make today that will make you seem like a total 'angel' by next week but hey weirder things have happened....

So this brings me to August. Now as I look at my calendar, I see that this is going to be a pretty hectic time for me. I supposed it will be a great way to end the summer. I just hope those that are close to me can forgive me for what I am about to post.

The friends that I do have in my life are considered my family and I treat them as such. I try to be as honest as I can without hurting their feelings. But sometimes the truth hurts and so I choose honesty first. And at the end of the day, I sometimes feel bad within myself because I am never sure if I hurt their feelings or not...SO IF I HAVE, I TRULY APOLOGIZE.

With that being said, I know that August will be a month of apologies so let me get them out now.

Ria, I am truly sorry that I will not be able to make your baby shower. I know out of all the people that you are hoping to show, that I was #1. However, prior to the email being sent out I had already made plans and purchased tickets to an event in the Hamptons. And if I know you, you would rather get doll'd up and be a part of the creme' de la creme' of the Hamptons vs. being doey eyed at the shower...So I promise to sip some and do the stanky leg in your honor...Love you SIS!

Mom, Big Sis, and Lil Big Sis, I am sorry that I will not be your entertainment at the Hot Ghetto Mess wedding of the century! See Above reason...LOL But please promise to take good notes so that we can have a laugh or two upon my return!

Tentative Itinerary for August...

1) August 7-9 (NYC, Jersey, Hamptons)

2) August 21-23 (Chrisette Michelle concert Richmond)

3) August 28-31 (Beach Roadtrip Excursion Celebrating 10 years of Friendship)


*Entering September in Financial ruin thanks to AUGUST LOL LOL LOL LOL


~feenix

A Dedication to Friends...

As you all know, I really don't do the chain letter thing, so I post the message here...

Woman and a Fork

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things 'in order,' she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.

She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.

'There's one m ore thing,' she said excitedly.

'What's that?' came the Pastor's reply.

'This is very important,' the young woman continued. 'I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.'

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.

That surprises you, doesn't it?' the young woman asked.

'Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request,' said the Pastor.

The young woman explained. 'My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement.. In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork.' It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie.. Something wonderful and with substance!'

So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder 'What's with the fork?' Then I want you to tell them: 'Keep your fork, the best is yet to come.'

The Pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death.. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, 'What's with the fork?' And over and over he smiled.

During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her.. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either..

He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed they make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.

Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to 'Keep your fork.'

Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share ...

Being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility.

Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND even if it means sending back to the person who sent it to you.

And keep your fork.

Naggin' Feelin'...

Now I will be the first to admit that being thankful for what you do have is what should get you by day to day. But what about the things that you think you deserve based on your hard work and the belief (thru no fault of your own) that if you worked hard then you would reap the rewards of that work...

Well each day I try to live my life based on that. I have had one experience (and that's all I needed) where I had to humble myself and LEARN humility. With that being said, when I hear of others and the jobs they have and salaries to go along with it, that naggin' voice in the back of my head goes...Damn really? Why am I not in a similar position...When will my hard work pay off? I mean I am working on a 3rd degree among other things, so whats the hold up???


But that's when I think about what I do have, and I give thanks! At the end of the day I have to accept that IT JUST ISN'T MY TIME YET....

~feenix

How to Break It Off w/ An Emotionally Unstable Mama's Boy...while Preggers!

Ok, so as well all know I am a part-time Therapist. And I have been presented with a most challenging issue of late. My sister, fly betty, is dealing with an emotionally unstable fella and she no longer wants to be involved with him, and she is going about the termination THE WRONG WAY. Now in his defense, she is hard-headed, impatient, bossy, and slightly a know it all, not to mention she is a FEMALE VIRGO...so stubborn doesn't describe it. So for history sake and to let you know where this stems from I will paste a portion of their communications so you can see where my advice comes from....

Him: So what are u doin (12:37)
Her: I know I'm responding so late but I was sleep! Now, I'm sitting under the dryer (10:12)
Him: U gettin braids (10:20)
Her: Yeah, tomorrow (10:19)
Him: O well im off today (10:22)
Him: So... Do u wanna do something (10:29)
Her: Sorry, but my hair's not gonna be done tonite! Maybe the next time you're off (10:31)
Him: Well do u want Her to jus come over (10:33)
Her: No cause my hair won't be done! When's the next time you're off? (10:34)
Him: Wendesday friday i believe and i dont care if ur hair not done (10:37)
Him: But u do yea ok (10:48)
Him: ? Are u tryin to avoid Her (11:18)
Her: Why would you ask something like it? (11:20)
Him: U always got some reason y u cant see Her (11:21)
Her: Um...I really don't get invites from you anymore but if that's you feel..... (11:22)
Him: Not as much cuz i always get an excuse and i never get invites no more but u havin ur hair not done is more important than seein Her (11:25)
Her: You don't get invites cause I don't do shit! I go to work, coHer home and go to sleep! That's my life story and has been since March (11:26)
Him: I know thats not everyday u do something i can come watch u sleep (11:29)
Her: Yeah, it really is! (11:29)
Him: O we need to see each other more when possible baby not goin no Her (11:53)
Her: Yeah, you're right (12:07)
Him: So who was ur (friend) u went to golden coral with (3:17)
Her: My friend Erica, why? (3:18)
Him: I was wandering but um ive never heard of erica u sure it wasnt eric (3:21)
Him: or tim (3:21)
Her: Have you always been this jealous and an emotional? (3:23)
Him: Well when ur close relationship goes long distance u would ask the saHer questions right (3:24)
Him: And u didnt answer my question (3:24)
Her: Yes, it was Erica and you haven't heard of people that I might menntion now adays! As far as Her asking questions as the one you just asked, I wouldn't ask (3:29)
Him: Well y havent i heard of this person or people that u now know and hang wit (3:36)
Him: U always said u have no friends (3:36)

So I say to her...has won this particular "argument" hands down! Of course she doesn't agree and asks me how do I come to this conclusion. I tell her 1) he is asking you direct questions 2) you are refusing to answer them 3) he is right about you making excuses 4) he is the father of your child so he has seen you with your hair fucked up before 5) He is making an effort to spend time with you, etc! AND YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS NOT COOPERATING... That's when I had an epiphany and asked "...You don't know anything about men do you?" and she replied "No." (sidebar: did you notice the emotionally unstable part ("...I can come watch you sleep..." WTF?)
Afterwards she says well I don't want to be mean to him and I am trying to give him signs that it is over. I say well OBVIOUSLY he is not good at reading between the lines and he has given you an "out" on more than one occasion...

She says I am going to write him a "Dear John" and I say thats kool and you should meet somewhere publicly to deliver it to him....some other things were discussed but I digress....

When breaking up with someone that you don't want to hurt, you must take extra precautions to ensure a smooth clean break...

This leads to the list:
1) Use apologetic terms (i.e. Unfortunately, in time, once, we, compassion)
2) Apologize for your part in the break-up (even if you feel you've done nothing wrong this with help keep an EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE person balanced)
3) Meet in public
4) Don't give more time than absolutely necessary (this will send a mixed signal and give them hope of another chance)
5) Take a friend (use this only if you feel there will be "trouble" and keep the friend hidden ESPECIALLY if this friend is Male)
6) DO NOT POINT THE FINGER!!! (This may get you slapped/punched/kicked and other wise embarrassed)
7) Keep the insults under wraps (refer to point 6)
8) If you've written a "Dear John" let him/her read it alone and in their own time. (Cover bases by putting at the end of the letter, "contact me when you are ready to talk..." this will take the ball out of your court and place it in theirs)
9) Smile often especially at the GOOD TIMES you've shared. (Remember its all about keeping the balance and hurt to a minimum)
10) Depart with a light handshake or even a hug (this will keep the friendship tone of the breakup)

Because whether you want to believe it or not, EVERYONE is emotionally unstable at some point!

Remember the spirit of the feenix is within...

~feenix

Neglected...

Its been brought to my attention that my blog was being neglected and if the behavior keeps up then I will be removed from "the list"...

It seems that have I been unable to write about the good times that my life is experiencing right now with the same creativity that I have shown in my other postings... So maybe that means that creativity is not needed.

Well to say the least, I am enjoying my life right now. Relationships are still on the outs because that is not something that is at the top of my list at this point. There has to be definite changes in the people who seek my hand because I refuse to settle...But on the flip side I am learning. (can you believe that someone had the nerve to tell me I am confrontational...But I had to really think about it and determine if there was some truth to it)

But I am really happy. I do what I want when I want and answering to someone is non-existent. My family is doing their best and I love spending time with them. We just had a family reunion on my Dad's side, although it was interesting, we had a blast. Go Diva (my mama)!!!! She and I are the reigning champions of the balloon toss...

And road trips are the best..when you have the right group of people! And I traveled this 4th weekend with the best. Banana, Soul Rebel, Jerry, and baby porcelain doll...Laughs were non-stop.

Things I love about Philly
1) Waterice
2) Mustard Pretzel
3) Inexpensive
4) The weather
5) Culture
6) The natives (keep you in stitches)

Sorry for the neglect...

~feenix

Obliged....

You have been obliged....


Message heard loud and clear!


~feenix