So in a relationship, of any sort, how do you deal with the drift? You feel it coming. You see it coming. But how do you stop it? Is the lack of not knowing how a result of your sub-conscious desire to say "to hell with it?" Not everyone is fortunate enough to experience the good times, which are usually at the beginning of the relationship, but what do you do when things change. Don't get me wrong some change is good. But when the changes make things worse instead of better you have to ask yourself can I? Am I? Willing to do anything about it...
Sometimes you can't help but wonder about the reasons you entered the relationship to begin with. Do they really know you? Are they taking the time to know you? Where does personal responsibility come into play?
The fact is drifting leads to distance. Distance leads to abscence. Abscence leads to the grass growing on the other side. What side of the lawn do you want to be on? I suggest you figure it out because the longer you drift the easier it will be when communication stops...
Think about it...
~feenix
The Open Relationship
2 years ago
1 comment:
Well if you know your drifting then someone has to say something. Chances are the other person is feeling the same thing and you both can talk about how/why it's happened and work to fix it. If the other person is oblivious to the percieved drift then chances are the two people are not even close to being on the same page. I think in every relationship there are highs and low, moments where you wonder if things could be different/better if you weren't together. But the conclusion of these random thoughts should be to stay with the one your with. If they don't then again some communication needs to occur with the two parties. The first necessary ingredients of a successful relationship are two people that actually WANT to be in the relationship.
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